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WAR-drobe stories (aka building a goth wardrobe pt. 1, boots & shoes)

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It happened. And that a lot lately. Emails and PMs asking how much I spent on my wardrobe so far and if there would be some advice I could give for building a gothy wardrobe. At first that question got me pretty much confused (or more the fact that it appeared more than once or twice lately), I have seen some of those guides before but thought they would be some nice inspiration when you got too confused in your wardrobe and maybe needed some inspiration or motivation for changing a bit or for clearing your wardrobe rather than being an actual guide on how to start dressing a special way but while talking to those lovely baby bats ( ❤ ) they indeed were asking how I would start to change my wardrobe / clothing jewelry these days and how I did ‘back then’ when my fabrics turned black, when I was on my pupils budged / pocket money. Telling me that today there is so much to shop that it is simply confusing for someone who just found their love for the darker subcultures. Got me thinking for a while.

So I found my first ‘bat family’ when I was just 11 years old. Back then (1998) there were not so many and easy to find goth stores, maybe when you were living in big cities but not in a tiny town like the one where I grew up. And online shopping? We barely had internet over here in Germany. I was happy for the ‘eldergoths’ who took care of me. Even though we did not have that word back then, simply amazing creatures who were 10 to 20 years older than me, some were in the punk or goth subculture for 10 years or more, they enjoyed taking care of that little girl over here so I got some help and inspiration for my DIY projects or sometimes I would even get a piece of clothing or accessorie, new or handmedown as present, lucky! Talking about being lucky, I was totally in love with the designs of Lip Service so when I learned about online shopping and after a lot of begging my mom sometimes would let me use her credit card for a USA lip service order!

Note: I did have some color phases when I tried to mix a piece or two into my wardrobe. Did not work for me but a girl has to try what a girl wants to try. If you like some of your ‘mainstream’ clothes who would have the right to tell you to throw them away? Nobody. And if you want to dress like a happy rainbow glitter faerie so please do it. Clothes should make you happy. I actually do have some friends who are still the gothiest person on earth in their hearts but due to job restrictions or issues their kids had at school because of their darkling parents or because they found their love for some color they changed their style to something more mainstream. Some would still throw on their gothy stuff and tease their hair on the weekends, some would not. Still friends. So stay with the people who adore you for the person inside of you, not for what you wear.

Whatever, after I thought about that topic for a while I thought I would do a small series on this blog (and while doing so, maybe take a closer look at my wardrobe – you know those moments that you realize you have too much of this or are missing that? Let me see what is hiding in the corners – even though I usually dig through my stuff once a year and sell what hasn’t been worn. Unless my heart is connected to it, of course.)

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those that will remain: Iron Fists Walking in my Web Heavy Sole Boots, Doc Martens patent leather 20-hole boots, Solovair 8-hole stompy leather boots with steel cap. Right pic are my working boots, white 8-hole Doc Martens. All the other shoes and boots don’t get enough love and hence will face ebay soon, yay for some empty space in my wardrobe!

So when I started the first thing I wanted were shoes. Before, I was wearing Buffalo plateau shoes, blue and white, they were the only ones available in my size (EU41.5 / UK 8 / US10-11). Did I mention how horrible the shopping situation was? In the beginning I even used a sharpie to paint them black. For shopping some shoes you should know your feet and what style you currently shop for and what style you would like to go for. Someone who is more into 80s/90s goth might want to buy different boots than those who enjoy fetish, military, cyber or lolita. My advice would always be to start a pinterest or moodboard, we do have the technical advances of the internet so we should use it! Most companies these days have shoes made from leather and vegan alternatives for some of their designs as well.

My very first gothy boots were Doc Martens. Nothing is ever wrong with simple black stompy boots. Perfect for clubbing nights, days on the town, spent in nature or actually I think for everything. Even with a ballgown, let them stare, they probably never will understand how comfy they are once the blister days are over! I buy a new black 8-hole pair every 3-5 years and also have a white pair for work and a 20-hole pair in shiny black pvc as well as maybe 2-3 on my wishlist that I am sure I will never actually buy anyways. I am not a huge shoe collector, really I usually only have like 6 or 7 pairs at the same time – even my exes did have more shoes than me.

I then wanted a pair of heels, never wore high heels before, they hurt my feet, were super expensive and I hated them, even though they did look amazing and made my booty look not so much like that early, tiny teenage girl that I was but more like a womans, wasn’t worth it for me. New Rocks in Black / Purple if I’m not mistaken, I never even liked purple, they are no longer with me like so many other shoes afterwards. Today I do understand that my feet need plateau soles in heels and better have thick heels or none than those tiny spiky ones, I have 2 pairs of Jeffrey Campbell heels, they do feel amazing (Lita Night Spikes – those that look like unicorn feet with spikes – and Litas in black fishnets) and I sometimes wear them at home or when visiting friends or for photos or when I am sure there will be no uneven ground and no alcohol at an event. If the ground is not even I can’t dance in them. When I’m drunk I get clumsy and simply fall down. I still drool over some New Rocks, Fantasma or Hades heels but I know they would spend more time in a corner of my flat than on my feet so that is not going to happen unless I win the lottery. When you adore the metal heels of New Rocks, they also come with heels that are less extreme and Demonias latest collection has some metal heels as well and they have some really pretty plateau boots and shoes in general!

Oh and while we are talking about things that maybe will never happen, Wellington boots! Even in the worst rain I will stick to my Docs, lately there appeared some beautiful designs though, with skull/roses prints or in black with military inspired lacing on top of the rubber, those could convince me, maybe. Sandals will probably never be a part of my collection either, the shoes with less fabric in my collection already don’t get enough love because I hate when my feet get cold. 40°C in summer? You will still find me wearing my boots. Thinking about some of those black jelly sandals or flipflops for the swimming pool though. My sport shoes gave up a while ago so I currently stick to my stompy boots but my previous ones usually were Capezio or Asics.

As for lolita girls or any other playful female styles you might find the ones you like with TUK but be careful with the zippers, I killed some of my blackmilk leggings with them (three pairs of TUKs have been in my collection that I remember, we don’t like each other, they won’t last long for me but I have friends who love them and say they are lasting forever while their Demonias broke fast – those last forever for me though, they also do have some nice Mary Janes available.)

And of course, every 80s/90s goths favourite Winklepickers, these lately seem to be everywhere again as well which I consider a good thing. Remember my post about The Gothic Shoe Company? I learned that my feet feel cold in my pair and probably will sell them and get a boot-kind-of pair. BTW, I’m wondering why they never replied to my questions…?

Another brand you could browse would be Iron Fist, last time I checked they would not ship directly to Germany though but you can easily get most pairs at resellers like attitude, beserk, find them on ebay or amazon. Lately Killstar released their first collection of shoes as well! Tempted to buy a pair but those heels, trying to resist over here! When you are afraid of online shopping though you might find something for your needs in town as well, if the boots are too boring for your likings try adding some spikes, spiderweb or bat paints or exchange the laces with chains! For the people who prefer soft fabrics even chucks can look good, depending on how you style them!

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So my collection is now cut in half, these will head to ebay: Demonia Sprite01, my Winklepickers, Jeffrey Campbell Fishnet Litas and Lita Night Spikes (Unicorn shoes)

Uh, so my shopping list now has black jelly sandals on it, two different pairs of Demonia boots (Clash 430, Sinister 203) as well as a new pair of Capezio dancesneakers and maybe, if lucky enough to find them in my size (EU41.5/UK8/US10) the YRU Qloud Gis. And I threw some of the shoes to an ebay pile that won’t be worn anyways because of cold feet. No matter how beautiful they are, shoes are made for walking, dancing and simply to be worn, not as decoration! I think that’s not too much for a wishlist though!

What are your preferences in shoes / boots? How did you start you collection? What is currently on your wishlist? Have a nice evening!

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Lip Service Clothing is coming back!

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So there IS something good in 2017, February, 19th Lip Service announced on their Facebook page that they would be back in action within the next few weeks! Probably the best news of this year for a lot of us! I still remember when I finally convinced my mom to let me use her credit card years ago (maybe 2000?) because I wanted to order something from Lippy. To me they always were one of the best brands for alternative (especially goth) clothing, a company that would still have their punk roots but with that perfect dark twist, over the years they started to have different collections, colorful ones and black ones, from lace and frills to pvc. Something to love for everyone, men and women. So even when one of their founders passed away and Lippy didn’t create anything new I still wore the 25year anniversary necklace. Haven’t been with them that long but been stalking their stuff since my early baby bat days, late 90s and even have some clothing stuff by them from long time ago that I treasure even though I currently am a bit wider than back then. And I still miss that one dress / ballgown that I wore to ‘prom’ night / even though it is not that much of a celebration in Germany, that dress felt amazing and I regret selling it when I had my weight problems, should have kept it… So yes, I squeed from joy when I read that post. Happy to see you guys back and by how I know your creativity and your style you probably can expect an order from me and a lot of people, USA and worldwide very soon after relaunching your shop. Even though I said to myself to only buy accessories until I am back to happy weight, you kill my plans – in a good way though, I know the size that usually did fit so I know what size to order, motivational shopping ahead! Good luck for the future and please never leave us alone again!

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Their Facebook post btw: Dear Lip Service Family…… Some of you have been asking when Lip Service will be back in action…… Well, we are excited to announce we will be reopening the Lip-Service.com web store within the next few weeks!!!! Please be sure to sign up to our NEW mailing list on the home page to receive all the info and special offers!! Follow us on Instagram @lipservice1985 and tag all your killer pics we can see! Thank you again for your years of support and love of our brand!! See you soon….

What do you think about this news? Sharing memories with that company as well? Have a great evening!

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Batfit 17-01 & Gear review Movit Hip Hoop!

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January 1st our dear Professor wrote about Batfit being 5 years old. This year she started by giving us a lot of new challenges in the first week already, exercising 30mins (which I do 2 days then 1 day off), relaxing (for me some yoga poses after workout and streching, like corpse pose, simply being there, breathing and concentrating on my body and soul. Or on my pamper days aka my no-workout days)

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Progress in January

Food: First working on drinking habits, need to stay gluten free because I am not doing this for some trend but to avoid my migraines and stomach pains (don’t worry, saw some doctors to understand that my body really can’t handle gluten, diagnosed celiac disease) and I am trying to get somewhat back to a montignac based diet throughout the year. My self set rules for lowering sugar intake and all that will not be followed as strict while I travel and if there is some craving I think it is ok if only happens once a week.

list-bat-png Goal was to change my energy drink intake that grew a lot during the moving months back to 1 can / day max and instead switch to coffee if I feel the lack of caffeine, definitely will try to also drink less coffee later this year but for now I am happy that I did so well.

list-bat-png Goal was to drink about 750ml Water and 1.5l Tea. Or however mixed healthy liquids each day. Of course more is ok but my skin and body need this amount of water.

A few days didn’t go as well (let’s say 2 instead of 1 day / week of breaking my self set rules) but every little bit helps! Next month I will try for these goals again as well as working on food.

Numbers: No scale in my new flat yet and none at work either but lost some cms in all the places I was hoping to lose some. Still there are more important things than numbers and so maybe I will try to ban them from my mind. Even though I would love to copy our professors 40by40 as a 30by30 but maybe, just maybe I wanted too much too fast, this can break you. I do set my big goals and add a few tiny steps in between which I will share with you. No numbers, no dates, for now. Maybe this would count as some ’emotional / psychological health goal’?

Workout: For me means a mixture of ballett, yoga and weights. 15 mins right after standing up, before the shower and 15-30 minutes sometime during the day, one or two days off each week and when I am not home. the first bit of workout is easily done and might be upgraded to 20 minutes each day, the second part I managed to do maybe half of the days this month, will set this as goal for February again, two days workout, one off and those days that I’m not at home will be off as well.

Mental: I guess everyone who follows this blog or my social media might have noticed that 2016 for me was a horrible year, emotion wise and with everything related to my mind as well. Did do some changes and a 3-year plan but let’s save this for another future Batfit post because it would contain too much writing.

Gear review: Movit Hip Hoop!

Amazon, you are a devil. I do have quite some wishlists there, for my flat, for my wardrobe, dvds, books and a slowly growing one for fitness gear to use for my everyday workout at home, to build up some different workout sets so it won’t get boring. While I was browsing for some new weights there was this black and green hula hoop, with 1.3kgs weights that made it into my shopping cart the exact same moment. Since hula hoops probably are something nice to add to everyones workout routine I never really thought about getting one before.

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left: I love it when parcels arrive without any damage. center: the tiny green bumps that might be painful at first but work amazing in the end. right: connetcion bits of the hoop.

The hoop is split in 8 parts that you have to put together, you can also take them apart again to easily transport them in a bag or something instead of carrying that 96cm wide hoop with you built together. That is something good but also means that the hoop is not as silent as one-piece-things are and if you live in a house where you could hear your neighbors snore through the walls you might not want to use it at night.

First day was as bad as I thought, 5 minute timer and only managed to keep the hoop up for maybe 10 rounds once. Within a week though I was able to keep it up for a minute. Let’s see how long it will take until I can keep it up the entire daylie 5 minutes! By the way, it feels good to do this after a bit of yoga in the morning! Of course, due to those green plastic bumps I got some really painful bruises but as soon as they vanished my skin felt so much more firm and I noticed some great loss of fat. Might, of course, be an illusion but I guess what feels good is good.

Will you join Batfit 2017? Have a nice evening!

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My Cave 16-11 -Moving to Oldenburg (& Youtube)

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So you might have already noticed that it turned a bit quiet around here, after my emotional breakdown I was facing another ‘new job and new home’ thing, both required me to spend a horrible lot amount of time in my car, I often only had 2 hours of sleep because it would be another long distance move. In the end I would have been able (jobwise) decide between northern part of Germany and eastern part of Germany. I have friends in both of those areas, knowing the goth scenes of both are alive, flats compared to wage roughly not a big difference as well but the job offer from northern Germany was a bit better so I went with that. Would now have to find a flat in Oldenburg because that would be the smallest size of city I would be willing to go (and that only because it is in a nice distance to cities like Bremen, Hamburg and the coast of the north sea, ruhr area would be within two hours drive as well.)

Tiny video of my new, tiny flat a few moments after I got my keys! Video is shared on my Youtube channel

So I applied for 30 flats within a month, they would only take me for this one.My second favourite though so I won’t cry. It is a 35m² 2 room appartment, not far away from the city or the highway, affordable as well (as in maybe 100€ less than my current flat). Bad points would be that it will be pretty difficult to find a parking slot but can’t be worse than here in Brunswick, there is no balcony so I had to give away quite a lot of my plants. And I don’t have my own mailbox (everyone in the house shares a huge one). There are those boxes you can rent not too far away though, will take a closer look into that as well.

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left: front door, center: huge window in bedroom, right: living room to kitchen, bat puzzle already moved in!

Now back to the flat itself. What I think is impressive are the really high ceilings, 3.55m (usually we have max 2.5m, think about all the extra knicknacks and spiderwebs one can place here!). The old flooring tiles add a nice atmosphere as well and it still amuses me that the shower is located in a tiny room attatched to the living room and without an actual door! An extra plus is that I am allowed to change things as long as it could be seen as an improvement. And with really old floorings in the toiletroom or shower room or with the old shover valve or lightswitches and whatnot that will be easy! My mind currently is exploding from all the ideas!

So while I already did order my new kitchen (facing a week without internet connection so that had to be done quick) and some fabric for curtains and a few knicknacks for the other rooms I first again will focus on the hallway, I like to have a beautiful, cozy spot as soon as I enter a flat, that’s why. Afterwards moving on to the other rooms, one room at a time with maybe a few tiny things happening in other rooms in the meantime though. Hoping you will stay with me on this journey of my new flat and new home area!

I know a lot of bloggers and youtubers and other online friends are currently moving, how about you? Have a nice evening!

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